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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Would you want that for your daughter? I'd be mortified to be that type of role model for my daughter. [/quote]

I'd be happy for my daughters if they put themselves in a position to have this option.

I did not go to college for my Mrs. degree.  I put myself through law school with a combination of work-study jobs and loans, got a job at a big firm where I worked my butt off to pay back the loans early, and have saved like crazy for almost 20 years.  I married someone with similar values and we have built a life together, as partners.  We have a lovely (almost paid off) home for our family in a great community, substantial savings for our retirements & kids' education, and secure, stable jobs.  We're now at a point where we can be very comfortable on just one income (and we have lots of life & disability insurance just in case), and we're thinking maybe it makes sense for me to stay home with our kids at this point.  It looks like this might work for OUR family.

Do I feel blessed & grateful?  Yes.  Mortified?  No, not really.

If you were secure and happy with your decisions, you wouldn't need to attack others & tell SAHMs that they should be "mortified" or that they're "taking the easy way out."  This is a difficult decision for many women, and of course there are pros & cons and we're all trying to do our best for our families.  There are ways to point out the downsides to being a SAHM without such hostility.  Your angry tone detracts from your credibility, and you just come off sounding like a hateful, judgmental person who's unhappy with her own life.        [/quote]

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