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[quote=Anonymous]I had a friend who disappeared while I was going through cancer treatment.  In hindsight, she probably just didn't know what to do or say, so she did nothing.  I didn't actually NEED anything, other than a friend.  Cancer is so isolating and I just wanted normalcy.  I wanted to hear the stupid neighborhood gossip and what her kids were up to and how work was going, because it made me feel connected to the real (non-medical) world.  In the end, I could forgive her disappearance, but what I couldn't forgive was her reappearance after radiation was done and her wanting to pick up where we left off as though nothing had happened. Our first get together after cancer treatment resulted in her talking nonstop about her job, with a casual, "oh hey, how are you?" thrown in.  I was just done.  Not out of anger, but more so because I realized that this person didn't know me at all.  Cancer changes you, your outlook on life, your relationships, your priorities...and she had no idea who I was by then. I think that's the key...a friend who is along for the ride (good times and bad) just knows how a difficult time in your life can change you.  It's not the casserole, it's the feeling that you're not alone in your fight.[/quote]

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