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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I like an immaculate house and he likes a messy one. So I just clean up after him. He does A LOT for me that I'm unable to do, so it's not one sided. We're both working nonstop, all of the time. If he were lazy, I wouldn't have married him.

I think you have to ask- what is really bothering you? The mess, your husband's laziness, or the fact that you think he's walking all over you and doesn't care about you (ie leaving mess and expecting someone else to clean)? [/quote]

All three.[/quote]

I do almost all the housework/kids stuff, including picking up after DH. I realized early in our relationship that while he liked having a clean and tidy place for us to live, he didn’t really want to spend any time on it. It is very important to me, so I am willing to spend time on it.

Also, my DH isn’t lazy, he just wont do housework. But he has a job with long hours and a good income, and he probably works at least as much as I do (my FT job, kids, house) since we also outsource some stuff.

You also have to take a step back and see how much of the picking up is for you and how much is really necessary. You can get rid of clutter by getting rid of your stuff - I tell my kids all the time if they leave a toy outside of the play room, that toy disappears. And it does - the toys are not necessary, so if they want them, they need to care for them. Get rid of the stuff that is being left everywhere.[/quote]

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