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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is she a POC? Rice and WashU offer a few huge scholarships—I think 50%—but most are diversity focused.  There are also private scholarships she can apply for.

While it certainly won’t hurt for her to try to get one of the tiny number of big scholarships offered by top schools, I’d suggest that you help her understand that her undergrad school is not going to change the course of her life. If she excels wherever she ends up, she’ll be in a great position to attend a prestigious grad school if she wants, though by that stage kids tend to realize it was silly to obsess about prestige in the first place. [/quote]

She is not. It’s not that she is being difficult, it’s because she has worked really hard and feels so dejected that her friends can either get financial aid or wealthy parents to pay and there is nothing she can do to attend colleges she loves. Yes, she’ll survive but it’s heart breaking to see her swollen eyes. This pandemic has been enough stress for everyone.[/quote]
You are a nice aunt to care so much, and I understand your niece’s sense of frustration about having fewer options than her wealthier peers. You and she do need to understand, though, that the fact that her folks are willing to pay for a State school means she is very fortunate and privileged compared to most kids in the country. Schools like Alabama bend over backward for kids like your niece and provide them with every opportunity to succeed. She truly will do very well wherever she goes if she continues to work hard.

I would hate to see you contribute to the current rift when your sibling and spouse have taken an extremely reasonable position re the finances. You will help your niece and your family if your role is helping her to see the bigger picture here while lending a sympathetic ear to her.  I recommend Frank Bruni’s Where You Go Is Not Who You’ll Be for kids in this situation. [/quote]

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