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[quote=Anonymous]OP, assuming that you're not a troll (or actually the husband)...

Being charitable here, it sounds like you and he are stuck in a bad cycle. Again, I'm giving your story a lot of benefit of the doubt here, but ASSUMING everything you said was accurate...

-You are generally frustrated, maybe at a boiling point now, about the amount of things on your plate, and he is not really contributing and he is perhaps being passive-aggressive. Perhaps purposefully blowing things off because he knows you will do them yourself, eventually. Also he has ADHD or some such, which isn't an excuse, but an explanation and might be helpful in determining a manageable strategy.

-AND. You are now micromanaging. He didn't do something for the household* yesterday and it stuck in your craw, so you are ready to pounce when he seems to be wasting time today.

-Even if he's generally a jerk, I don't blame him for his response (your title) because your monitoring his every second is not only disproportionate, but totally ineffective, even counterproductive.

-You are frustrated, and (again giving you the HUGE benefit of the doubt) you are justified in being frustrated. But you're having a tantrum at this point because you are unable to control him. Nothing good can come of this.

-Maybe there is no amount of calm problem-solving and meditation that will actually produce a good result for your family, which means you have to make some choices. But it doesn't sound like anything productive is even being attempted eight now.

*I almost said "for you!" But that just shows how ingrained the sexism is.[/quote]

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