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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s not a new buzzword.

Here is an article about it. I don’t expect a man who is feeling defensive about it would get much out of the article, but if you’re genuinely curious it’s pretty eye-opening.

https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12063822/emotional-labor-gender-equality/

It doesn’t exactly resonate with me because my marriage dynamic isn’t like this, but I know it’s common.

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This is from four years ago by the way, and links articles that come before that.

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“My husband, despite his good nature and admirable intentions, still responds to criticism in a very patriarchal way. Forcing him to see emotional labor for the work it is feels like a personal attack on his character. If I were to point out random emotional labor duties I carry out—reminding him of his family’s birthdays, carrying in my head the entire school handbook and dietary guidelines for lunches, updating the calendar to include everyone’s schedules, asking his mother to babysit the kids when we go out, keeping track of what food and household items we are running low on, tidying everyone’s strewn about belongings, the unending hell that is laundry—he would take it as me saying, “Look at everything I’m doing that you’re not. You’re a bad person for ignoring me and not pulling your weight.””

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