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[quote=Anonymous]Is this behvior causing harm?

For example:

-Is she ignoring her friends?  
-Is she dropping other activities she used to like (i.e. sports, art, reading etc.?)
-Are her academics/grades suffering?
-Is she demonstrating that her self-esteem is tied to what her current boyfriend thinks of her (focusing on what HE likes to do, how HE thinks she should look/act, whether HE is going to break up with her)?
-Is she possessive/jealous or obsessing about whether he's going to break up with her (or whether she should break up with him to be with some other kid?)
- Are they hanging out privately (in each other's rooms or otherwise without other people around), as opposed to meeting up at Starbucks or with other kids or hanging out in common spaces at each others' houses

If you're not seeing any of those actual behaviors (or others I may have missed), I truly wouldn't worry about it.

Some kids like having a go-to person at that age.  For many girls it's a "best friend", but for some it's a "boy friend".  Doesn't mean she thinks she's "in love" nor does it necessarily mean that she's hooking up with any or all of them.

Based on what I'm seeing with DD and her friends (ages 13/14), most girlfriend/boyfriend relationships are in name only - it's a label but not a romantic kind of thing, and they rarerly if ever spend time together without other friends around.  
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