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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah the fact that she escalated after you pointed it out means she knows absolutely that this is getting a rise out of you and is enjoying it.

Depending on the age of the kid either I would say or tell my child she could (but doesn’t have to) say that she prefers grandma call her “Sarah”. If she’s otherwise a good MIL I’d privately tell her, hey, Sarah mentioned to me she feels uncomfortable with you using her parents name for her, but you know how she is she’s never going to tell you that she loves you to bits. If she continues using it after that, tells you how much she cares about boundaries...[/quote]

So, you'd lie to Grandma and say your child said something you didn't, and then it would teach you what the other person thinks about boundaries?

Sarah didn't mention that she felt uncomfortable.  She got put on a spot by a parent who admits that they're visibly annoyed when it happens and bent over backwards to find a response that didn't offend anyone.  The kid is so scared of mom's reaction that she freezes and looks to her when this happens.  This is a parent with huge problems with boundaries.  Grandma isn't the issue.  [/quote]

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