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You are not mentally well because all these issues are not pressing or particularly hard to deal with for a mentally healthy person.

Please call your doctor to get a full work-up in case there's a physical cause, and if/when that's ruled out, get a referral to a psychiatrist who will start you on medication.

Let's rapidly parse through the issues now:

1. Your sister and parents do not need your help NOW. Do not freak out over something that hasn't happened and isn't likely to. You are not obligated to provide for your sister or your parents. Your parents can go to medicare nursing homes. Your sister will fend for herself.

2. Your children are independent and not in need of help, great.

3. Your husband is independent and not in need of help, great.

4. I'm sorry about your pet in intensive care, but for the moment you have no control over the outcome.

5. I understand there's another sick pet, but not critical? It's hard work, but you can do it.

Please call your doctor, OP. You are not well.

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I’ve gotten counseling and was told that the problem is not me, it’s the one two three punch, rinse repeat, of people who can’t and won’t do for themselves. Sister will not get help. The other sick pet is dying of cancer and has been for three years. She started with another illness that sucked the life out of us for a long time, it was SO much work and so much suffering I wished for her death on occasion. Just when she was getting better, bam, cancer. They keep telling us 3 or 4 months but that stretches into years, with increasing symptoms and increasing care. Covid restrictions are not helping. SO hard to get ANYTHING done.

Therapist advised backing off and letting the chips fall where they may for my own mental health. Step in when they are so broken they don’t refuse the help. The problem lies in the resistance and constant battling. I wish the docs out there would be more helpful. My father’s is good about it by my mother’s is horrid. [/quote]

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