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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not all about &quot;things.&quot;  We have the money to buy things so we buy nice things.  Therefore, the kids' (teens) things are all nice:  Ugg, Northface, Starbucks, Tiffany, etc, nice vacations, nice cars, all Apple everything etc, etc.   If the kids are nice and compassionate and thankful, then having all nice things does not make them entitled.  I think it may mean just that their parents have plenty of money.  [/quote]

If you are this focused on labels and brand names, then I guarantee you your kids are &quot;entitled.&quot; It has less to do with what you're giving them, than what you're teaching them.[/quote]

+1.  I wanted to throw up when I read that post.

DH and I came from very modest backgrounds.  We have tons of $ now.  That fact I try to keep from my kids as much as possible.  They don't get everything they ask for (in fact they don't get most of what they ask for) even though we could pretty much afford to buy them anything they want.

At a very young age- we teach compassion and empathy.  We teach just because 'so and so' has it doesn't mean you will get it or need it.  We teach them self-confidence and pride which does not come from material things, but comes from [i]doing[/i] something.  We teach the act of doing chores or earning things and saving $- not spending it.  We teach helping/giving to those less fortunate.  We try to teach a world view.  We tell them how lucky they are to live where they do and how some kids don't have the basics.

They feel safe, but not entitled.  DH and I are very modest people and not into impressing the Joneses.  I think this is raising reasonable kids.  Growing up--my siblings and I had summer jobs because we were expected to help pay for college.  Looking back--the sum we contributed was paltry.  I did not realize it at the time.  My parents did pay for my tuition, but I always had a job for my own spending money and for clothes outside the basics, e.g., more expensive, etc.  we weren't given frivolous gifts for things that should be expected of kids in the first place, e.g., studying, doing their best in school, graduating from HS.

DH and I struggle since we did not grow up in wealth--we don't want to raise bratty, self-entitled kids.  Our kids were taught to say 'please' and 'thank you' before they could barely form a word. They see us treat everyone with the same level of respect and dignity.  We are not snotty or haughty to checkout ppl, or waitstaff , etc (like I see in this area all of the time!!)&lt;.  They say hello and chat with everyone.  I sometimes thinks we need to get the h*ll out of this area the older our kids get.  We run into so many snotty, self-entitled kids and parents that areeven worse!  We saw one chew out the face painting lady at kids' night at Silver Diner for godsake.

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