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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread has been on my mind since I read it and I want to check in. I’m a 37 year old mother of 3, I’m an only child. My mom (long divorced) is 74 and she has been just awful to me for the last 3-4 years. I stopped talking to her in May 2021 when she told me she hated the crappy Mother’s Day present I sent her and that raising me was such a waste of money and time.

Is that the sort of thing people mean when they say they are parenting their parents? Or is this abnormally bad? I have no place for comparison, all I know is that I cannot take abuse like this from her while also raising young kids and working in a pandemic. [/quote]

I'm sorry OP My mom became mean and nasty as she neared what was the eventual end, due to heart attack. I didn't think she had dementia, but after her death I am not so sure. It was part of it, as I took the abuse while helping her. The main thing is to figure out how to help her without letting the meanness get to you. Like I just ignored any drama about presents, and kept a running list of what she did and didn't seem to like in my phone.

If you aren't already seeing a therapist, I would do so, and explain the situation. It was really really difficult. Basically it's like dealing with a really mean large toddler who now hates you for no apparent reason. [/quote]

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