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[quote=Anonymous]OP, that does sound exhausting to never feel like your opinions and needs matter. I think it would help to talk about two issues before the next trip. First, your need for downtime. For introverts, this really isn’t a nice-to-have, it’s something you really need. Explain to him what you need and how it feels to not get any downtime. And secondly, discuss how he feels the two of you have to do everything together. That’s probably something he absorbed in his family of origin and has weird thoughts that if he goes to a friend‘a house without you, they would think the marriage is in trouble, etc. It may not even be a conscious idea he has, but articulating that he’s learned things that make no sense (like many of us over time). And as a part of that conversation, listen to him, too. Maybe there is one special friend he wants you to meet, etc. There is a lot of space between doing everything your husband wants and none. Good luck![/quote]
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