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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mom died on my birthday, which falls between Thanksgiving & Christmas, 3 years ago. It’s such a hard time of year. It gets easier, but that first year was rough. Like a PP, I definitely passed out drunk by the tree at least once that first year.

Now I prepare for the “rough season,” which also coincides with SAD, by going on an antidepressant in the fall. I make sure I have Xanax on hand, and I try not to drink too much. 🤷🏼‍♀️

The year she died, we knew she wasn’t well, so I hosted Thanksgiving and went all out with her China that hand been her mom’s, etc. That was the last time I saw her. My son was 2.5 and he cried so hard when she left and said, “I’ll never see you again!” We all laughed, but now I wonder if he could sense something.

I manage best if we don’t try to recreate any traditions. COVID has helped with that some. Every holiday since, we’ve switched things up a bit. I like to be festive, decorate, cook too much, do festive outings and activities, but there’s no winning trying to recreate something that can only exist in a memory. [/quote]

Oh, another thing I do is I always take my birthday off from work. It hits me harder than I think it will. And I spend the day by myself doing the things my mom would like to do if we skipped work and played hooky... haircut, lunch out, shopping at a fancy store... stuff like that. [/quote]

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