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[quote=Anonymous]I’m a psychologist and it is true some therapists do more harm than good.

I’ve even experienced this. My husband went to see someone when we were going through a rough patch. He was infatuated with someone in his office and whenever he talked about her he get all animated and giddy.

The therapist told him, “you get so happy when talking about your colleague. Your whole face lights up. She clearly has a positive effect on you.”

Well, DUH! Of course he seemed happy. She was a young woman with no baggage, always flirty toward him, etc.

He actually told me what the therapist said and I bit my tongue. However one of HIS friends said to him exactly what I was thinking and he switched therapists to someone who was willing to explore his contribution to issue and open his eyes to the real world and what it might be like if he dumped me for the shiny new toy.

I’m still a little bitter than there are therapists who do not look at the whole picture and have both sides explore how they got to the place they are. It does everyone a disservice.

In my story my husband finally came around, we both acknowledged our parts to the story (hard as it is) and after much work moved forward. But we were both older adults and not also dealing with the maturity issue your daughter is. It may take the right therapist and time associated with maturing.

The bottom line is you can control no one’s behavior but your own. She is in control of her own life now and needs to accept responsibly for how things move forward for her.
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