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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks all. I encouraged her to post her art and she did sell a couple pieces to friends if friends type.  She set up at an outdoor market and was convinced that she'd sell 1,000 in art in one day.  Sadly (not surprisingly) she did not sell one piece.  She is getting ready to move out in Jan Feb.  I have offered to help her with security and move.  But she's on her own for the rent and all other expenses.  I'm still paying her car insurance.  But we told her last month that she has to get her own policy Dec 1st. Her car which we bought of course when she was a senior in high school (basic Toyota, new) will be signed over to her name when she takes insurance.  I also encouraged her to take art lessons and we were going to gift her money for bday and Xmas for art lessons.  But she used the money to buy other things.

This is her first week at her first real job.  On her first day she called me over lunch complaining how exhausted she was.  It had only been 4 hours.  She's also disappointed in her salary BC she's only making 45k and in her mind she should be making 60k straight out of college.  Whatever...
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Sounds like you are handling it well.  Sadly, she really needs to go for a masters to earn more money.  Its good that she's growing up.  You are right to help pay with move in but she needs to pay everything else including car insurance.  She needs to grow up and pay for those things.  You can give her gifts for birthday/holidays for those things too.  But, if she chooses to use it for something else its on her.[/quote]

This is bad advice. Masters in what?? I hate it when people just encourage kids to incur more debt by going to grad school. She should work for a few years and get more of an idea of what she wants to do. Then she could maybe get an mba. Or keep working but do art classes on the side while trying to sell her work.

Most artists have real jobs that pay the bills. I know this because my mother was an artist so we always had lots of them over at our house. They either taught at palaces like the Corcoran, or had a rich spouse, or a trust fund, or a normal job but did art on the side. [/quote]

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