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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you limit the time you are available since things drive your crazy. You need a schedule (even if it's just for her visits) where you are out of the house for a predictable, set amount of time. Each day. The same each day, ideally. 9 to 11am, whatever. Drive off and go sit in your car somewhere if you have to. Where/what you do is unimportant. But this is *you* time. Or you and your kids. Not with her. No explanation needed.

Assume she will never take a hint about anything she says. Sorry about her noise, and dictating your nursing schedule. Don't know what to say about that. Sorry about the dead relatives, Let that go. Don't know what to say about thatYou and your DH should not be expressing your frustrations to her. She's not an appropriate person to share with. You know it will not go well  --- so don't. Your husband may slip but you have control over yourself.

Also -- your husband is not your confidant on all this. When you have established *some* time when you're gone every day, don't involve him. Don't discuss, jsut do. Don't discuss the details. Don't discuss his Mother anymore than you absolutely have to. No two married people are going to be on the exact same page re: ILs and Parents.

The overall problem is: too much togetherness. You need to lessen the togetherness.

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