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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Add activities! Have DH take his mom out for a drive, out for lunch, even a sightseeing tour.

Have things that YOU have to do-take your nursing baby out and about with you (then just drive away for a few hours, go to a new playground and sit) and have MIL babysit the others.

Could you embark on an at home project while MIL is visiting and be over the up grateful that she can watch your kids while you do X in another room? I’m thinking; pulling out your winter clothes or filling a bag with donations that you’ll immediately drive to a thrift store? Or, even laundry - get in all done.

Limit your one on one time with MIL. Do something engaging as a family. A walk around the neighborhood? Have MIL play a board game or bake cookies with older kids?

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OP! I’m this PP and just read that your MIL has zero interest in outside activities. Same w/ my mom! Maddening!

Again I’ll urge you to vacate - embark on a “really important” project! Then, leave with your nursing baby. DH needs to step up and help and provide lots of one on one son time. My mom looooooves to brag about how attentive my older brother is when she stays with his family. Granted his children are young adults and the youngest is in HS. There’s time for my brother to hang out with mom solo.

I’ll note that my wise SIL always is very, very busy “training” and “staying fit” and it seems like my Mom’s visits coincide with an upcoming bike ride or charity fun run. SIL announces she’s leaving/getting up early/out all day/needs to go to sleep early because of “training.” SIL goes out all day for “bike rides” and then “out to dinner” with friends. My mom returns and tells me all about how SIL schedule. Well played, SIL, well played. She’s not done a 5k for years.[/quote]

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