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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - the current plan is for a VBAC but if the baby doesn't come or gets too large I will end up with a scheduled C-section between 39 and 40 weeks. My OB doesn't want to do a scheduled induction since my first was a C-section.  OB has also said that even scheduled C-sections are being bumped frequently at Sibley until they are medically necessary so the fact that I'm scheduled on a certain day means almost nothing so it makes it a bit trickier to plan childcare.  The takeaway was that the c-section would happen the week it is scheduled because by the end of the week it would likely be considered medically necessary due to my age.

Have made several attempts to grow our group of friends but most people near us have 2+ kids already so this particular request is hard.  I think in an emergency people would help, but this is a bigger ask and somehow seems to be viewed as different.  My best friend is struggling with infertility so it seems particularly inappopriate to ask her to help for this one but for something else I would definitely ask.  I have a couple co-workers I could ask so I will add them to the list but both are probably an hour drive from me.  For babysitters we've used White House Nannies because none of my care.com attempts have worked out (we have a big dog which is off-putting to many people.)[/quote]

This is exactly the type of situation where you just need to pay someone to guarantee their availability, i.e. a doula. I would not ask a random friend. You could be seriously inconveniencing them or they could back out when you need them most with no warning (re: they didn't want to do it in the first place)

OP I saw your husband could be gone around 36 weeks. Worse case the doula drops you off at the hospital and takes your kid. Chance of a precipitous labor that early is very slim so you should only be alone for the 3-4 hours. Have the doula hang out with your kid a couple times first. The nanny can only help you if she has 24/7 transportation and is willing. I think it is alot to ask someone to be available 24/7 for a month without compensation [/quote]

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