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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd be out and about together more often having an amazing time and enjoying life. Maybe she will be watching, maybe not. [/quote]

Yes, to this. Post a few cute selfies of you two on date night. Do not contact her and give her the satisfaction of now being a triangulated character in her imaginary romance. [/quote]

Don't do this. I don't think you should go into hiding or anything but this kind of behavior tends to encourage obsession, not discourage it. I think being really showy about what a happy family you are will only pique her interest. If she's not already stalking your social media, this is a good way to ensure she starts.

Live your life. It's good your DH is telling you about this behavior and not responding to her. It sounds like she might be unhappy about her own life and fixating on what might have been. I'd go about my business, if you see her, say hello and be cordial and pleasant. I would suggest your DH respond with something detached ("Great to see you, hope all is well! Enjoy your holidays!") instead of outright ignoring her which will communicate that the situation is weird and maybe illicit. Responding but keeping it friendly/distant communicates "hey, I have neutral feelings about you but am in a good place generally and wish you wll." That's the goal.

You can also try the "kill her with kindness" route and go all in -- invite her to group events (like a backyard BBQ) and connect on Facebook and be super friendly in a just-friends way. But people on here will say that's playing with fire and that if you do this she'll steal your husband and your kids and leave you bankrupt. But I actually think it could work. Hard for her to try and swoop in on your DH if she's friends with you whole family and hangs out with you and the kids sometimes.

Remember, you hole all the cards here.[/quote]

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