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[quote=Anonymous]Hi, I am the OP here.  I feel a little better knowing that I am not the only one who gets so frustrated and angry sometimes.  A PP asked what was happening at the times that I feel like I want to lose my cool and hit DC.  Usually what's happening is that both kids are either crying or somehow in need of attention at the same time, and older DC is doing something that she shouldn't, or doing something that makes more work for me (e.g., taking her shoes off outside in the wet, muddy grass)...and so then I have to put down younger DC, tend to older DC, and younger DC starts crying, and older DC is protesting me putting her shoes back on, and I just feel so angry at older DC.  Or, older DC will just fuss and whine and cry for seemingly no reason, and I get down on my knees and look at her and ask calmly and compassionately, "what's wrong? how can i help you? did you hurt yourself?" and instead of answering, she just continues to wail.  it frustrates me, because she's very smart and has the language skills of someone 3 times her age, so i feel like she should be able to explain to me what the problem is, and it frustrates me when she doesn't, and just keeps crying.  but deep down, i know that sometimes, there isn't a reason, and they're just tired, cranky, etc. and can't put it into words.  but in the moment, i sometimes get so frustrated.  
to the PP who posted about losing her cool with her 16-month-old - i feel bad; i know you feel horrible.  try to forgive yourself and try not to do it again.  one thing that i have tried to do is, when my DC is getting me so frustrated, i just say something like "wait here a second, i have to go get your sweater from the other room" and then i go into the other room and put my face into a pillow and scream or yell, just to try to get the frustration out.  good luck; i know it is very hard.  also, maybe as DH to shorten his AM routine![/quote]

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