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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I get it, that is a lot of thankless effort for a bunch of weirdos.
My main question is about your daughter. Does she like thanksgiving with any of these people - even just grandma? I posted in another family holiday thread recently. My mom hated holidays with our extended family, esp in laws. I see now all these people have faults (putting it mildly). But those holidays are my happiest memories from childhood. It’s really nice to feel like you have a family outside your mom and dad.
Also, I see your point about your daughter getting frustrated with her special needs cousin but…. That seems like a good life lesson? I’m sure in general you don’t think special needs kids should be excluded from holidays or parties.[/quote]

OP here. This resonates with me. My mother never hosted, my grandparents (mothers side) would take the whole family my whole childhood (12-18 of us) out to an extremely fancy dinner for Thanksgiving and Christmas and me and the cousins would have so much fun dressing up and ordering exciting things on the menu. Those were all great memories. Since they passed 20 years ago my mother never got it together to take it on so nothing really happened and I would fill my holidays with friendsgivings in nyc. Since DD I really tried to get everyone back to no avail and I’m tired. But yes I know I need to just cancel.

My DD is lovely and compassionate. Even though there is just 18 months between the cousins there is 8” of height and her cousin is 60 lbs heavier. Over the summer cousin held the water hose over her head when they were in the sprinkler for 15 seconds and scared DD - my cousin (her mother) did nothing and did not even acknowledge. So my point is more they are not able to communicate and DD got rattled and of course I am teaching her compassion and understanding but she asked me point blank if “Larla was going to break all of her toys again and scare her like last time”. So we talked about it.

Anyway / yes I’m cancelling.

We usually go to the UK for DH’s family for xmas.

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