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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m sorry, op. I’m truly convinced that people who travel loose perspective. They in time regard everything and everyone like a hotel.  They become too used to getting what they want when they want with money being the only transaction. I’m convinced it ruins how they look at the world, and also how they treat people, especially their loved ones, if only for a little while.

[b]As for the chicken soup, was your husband going to actually be able to eat it had you made it?  I get that you meant well, but would the soup have been ready for him to eat by the time he had to leave?[/b]  Might he have seen “you all get to stay home in a nice cozy house and I get to travel.”

As for the kids and colds, our first was always getting us sick at daycare.  That’s one reason our younger 2 aren’t in daycare.  Would you or your husband prefer you stay home? I’m convinced many men want a stay at home mom/wife but also want to see $$ coming into the bank.  Most have very little idea of what either configuration looks like.  Plus, they and we were raised to be “equal partners” “discuss things before marriage” “split things down the middle” all sorts of things our parents and grandparents didn’t have to think about.  They may not have *liked* it, but they also didn’t have to do nearly the planning or thinking that we are expected to do.

This sounds fixable.  I’d first tell your husband that you aren’t the hotel staff and you won’t be treated like that.  I refuse to pick up things for my husband at the store because if I get it wrong, he fusses.  If he goes and gets it, or if a delivery service gets it, the focus is on “why did *they* screw up” or “Next time *we’ll*…” It saves a lot of hurt feelings and arguing. Be nice to him, but don’t act like the staff going off to get things he likes/needs.

[b]As for comfort items, make sure he can actually use them before he goes.  Preparing something he can’t consume is kind of an obtuse thing to do.  It’d be like you needing tampons and you husband saying “I’ve ordered you tampons and pads, they’ll be here next week” and you thinking “That’s nice but I really needed a box right now”.[/b]

As for the illnesses, get a whole house humidifier, set up so that it humidifies to the size of your house. Too little power and it won’t humidify the way you want, water saver mode and it still won’t humidify. You want a big powerful steam producing monster that will use water in a way that makes environmentalists poop bricks.  Your h.v.a.c company should be able to do this for you.  For you guys, get an adjustable mattress frame.  My husband and I are convinced they help, at least they help us not get colds the way we used to.  Our younger kids are in school now and our youngest as well as our high schooler have been coming home with all types of stuff.  We’ve rarely felt it and the illnesses do not seem as long for the kids either, days compared to over a week.

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Op here. The soup seems like a weird thing to dwell on, but I'll clarify. I was going to make soup this afternoon. He doesn't leave for the meeting until tomorrow. So yes, he would have had plenty of time to consume the comfort item before leaving.[/quote]

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