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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Women who have that arrangement complain because —for their family— it doesn’t work in practice the way it is supposed to work in theory. Just like your current arrangement isn’t working in practice for your family.

Though, honestly, you sound like a troll when you write “egalitarian marriage”. Who would want an unequal marriage. Just say that you want to work PT and focus on housework. [/quote]

I have this arrangement and find no need to complain. It’s ideal. Because I’m part-time, we can use aftercare and preschool so we save money mot paying a nanny. Yes, most of the cleaning falls to me. But, because I still work, we kept our bi-weekly cleaners and nobody gets angry if we just do takeout or sandwiches for dinner sometimes. My DH is able to focus 100% on his job and earned a nice promotion recently. He still does outside, lawn work. We both play with our kids and hang out with them when possible. It’s good and there’s no reason OP shouldn’t strive for something similar if she wants to.

But yeah, egalitarian is the wrong word. Both my DH and I hold 50% of the “power” in our marriage. Sometimes his way wins, sometimes mine does. That said, he doesn’t whine about cleaning and cooking and I don’t whine about the lawn.[/quote]

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