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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t see anything wrong with that.[/quote]

Me neither.   The opposite viewpoint is why we have a generation of adults that find an excuse for every misbehavior and nothing is ever their fault.    But at least they don't feel "shame".[/quote]

I don't think apologizing for an outburst is automatically shaming. Someone wrote in another thread recently (the thread was explicitly about apologies) that the key is not to treat forced apology as a punishment. So I think the fact that the child seems okay with the apology is relevant. It doesn't sound like it was a punishment, more a chance to take responsibility for her behavior.

I also don't think this is an example of having someone apologize for their ADHD (or ASD if it turns out to be that). There is a difference between a disability and certain manifestations of that disability. Obviously OP's daughter is still figuring out how to manage her ADHD and that can be a bumpy road, which is fine. But I do think it's worthwhile to learn early that while you never have to apologize for your disability, there are times when you do still have to apologize for behavior that is related to your disability. Learning this can make it easier for your child to have functional relationships and even a functional work life later, even though they will also need to manage their ADHD. Because as an adult, they will still be responsible for managing it. They will still need to be accountable to others. ADHD is an explanation, but it's not an excuse.[/quote]

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