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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Or your sisters may be trying to normalize how hard it is to be pregnant and how hard it is to be a new mother. Just because you've TTC for a long time doesn't mean that you aren't allowed to feel fat and/or exhausted during pregnancy or that you aren't allowed to feel exhausted/overwhelmed/depressed postpartum. There are aspects of being a new mom that are hard for everyone and it's all new, which is also a challenge.

Be happy that they aren't telling you "I thrived during those sleepless nights with Larlo... I lived for her needing me 24/7 when it was difficult to go for a walk or take a shower. I barely noticed when my breasts were painful and engorged, my clothes didn't fit, and a huge maxi pad felt like a permanent part of my outfit."

I have two (pregnant with #3) and was one of the first in my friend group to have kids. I totally try to normalize how difficult it is to my friends - not because I want them to be like "OMG, this sucks/this is so hard." Not at all. I want to normalize that it's OK to be sad/frustrated/depressed/overwhelmed/stressed during an incredibly difficult time for many. You are taking care of a helpless baby, recovering from pregnancy/childbirth, sleep deprived, and your hormones are all out of whack. No one is going to love every moment and the point is that it's ok not to love every moment! [/quote]

But I don’t feel fat. I lost the weight 2 weeks pp when the fluids drained out. I’m not exhausted. The baby slept in five hour stretches and only woke one time and night since coming home from the hospital. He also has a great latch so no breastfeeding problems. I’m not overwhelmed or depressed.

I think moms complain too much. It’s really not that hard. It’s a lot of sitting around nursing while I watch tv or play on the Internet. It’s kind of boring. [/quote]

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