Anonymous
09/30/2021 15:40
Subject: Sisters seem disappointed I'm not complaining about being a mom
I don’t get this at all. I was lucky to have 3 easy pregnancies and have three great kids but, duh, childbirth hurt, I’ve had some sleepless nights, and sometimes I do get exhausted.
Maybe I don’t know the types of moms being mentioned here but when I hear “I’m so tired, larla is teething and waking up all night” or “I’m so ready to have this baby, I’ve been having crazy heartburn!” I don’t hear complaints so much as another mom trying to relate to me and grow closer through our shared experiences.
Maybe I don’t know the types of moms being mentioned here but when I hear “I’m so tired, larla is teething and waking up all night” or “I’m so ready to have this baby, I’ve been having crazy heartburn!” I don’t hear complaints so much as another mom trying to relate to me and grow closer through our shared experiences.
Anonymous
09/30/2021 15:32
Subject: Sisters seem disappointed I'm not complaining about being a mom
Anonymous wrote:Guys OP's perfect sleepy gift from heaven baby went from a she to a he somewhere along the way in this thread. Don't feed the troll.
I think magical unicorn babies like OPs can interchangeably be a he or she.
Anonymous
09/30/2021 15:26
Subject: Re:Sisters seem disappointed I'm not complaining about being a mom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Or your sisters may be trying to normalize how hard it is to be pregnant and how hard it is to be a new mother. Just because you've TTC for a long time doesn't mean that you aren't allowed to feel fat and/or exhausted during pregnancy or that you aren't allowed to feel exhausted/overwhelmed/depressed postpartum. There are aspects of being a new mom that are hard for everyone and it's all new, which is also a challenge.
Be happy that they aren't telling you "I thrived during those sleepless nights with Larlo... I lived for her needing me 24/7 when it was difficult to go for a walk or take a shower. I barely noticed when my breasts were painful and engorged, my clothes didn't fit, and a huge maxi pad felt like a permanent part of my outfit."
I have two (pregnant with #3) and was one of the first in my friend group to have kids. I totally try to normalize how difficult it is to my friends - not because I want them to be like "OMG, this sucks/this is so hard." Not at all. I want to normalize that it's OK to be sad/frustrated/depressed/overwhelmed/stressed during an incredibly difficult time for many. You are taking care of a helpless baby, recovering from pregnancy/childbirth, sleep deprived, and your hormones are all out of whack. No one is going to love every moment and the point is that it's ok not to love every moment!
But I don’t feel fat. I lost the weight 2 weeks pp when the fluids drained out. I’m not exhausted. The baby slept in five hour stretches and only woke one time and night since coming home from the hospital. He also has a great latch so no breastfeeding problems. I’m not overwhelmed or depressed.
I think moms complain too much. It’s really not that hard. It’s a lot of sitting around nursing while I watch tv or play on the Internet. It’s kind of boring.
For many babies, the sleepless nights actually begin around 3 mo and stretch through the first year. Some kids have to be sleep trained over and over again; some are not trainable. Some kids sleep well and have myriad other issues. In the newborn days it is all about sleeping and eating. But as they get older, those aren’t the only things that can make motherhood stressful. The list gets longer as they get older. Have the humility not to count your chickens before they hatch.
And for those mothers who had rich interesting lives before children, the boredom IS something worth complaining about. Many women are struck by how demanding having a baby is physically, and how little room it leaves for you to actually talk and think about interesting things. Maybe that’s not you, but it seems like you can at least acknowledge the boredom side.
I disagree with the posters who say that women should stop complaining about motherhood. Women should be rioting in the streets about the conditions under which we give birth, return to work, seek childcare, and take on parental responsibility in this country. I think women actually complaining is a step ahead where we were last generation, in which our mothers silently bore it all because it was so taboo to talk about it.
Anonymous
09/30/2021 15:20
Subject: Sisters seem disappointed I'm not complaining about being a mom
Guys OP's perfect sleepy gift from heaven baby went from a she to a he somewhere along the way in this thread. Don't feed the troll.
Anonymous
09/30/2021 15:19
Subject: Re:Sisters seem disappointed I'm not complaining about being a mom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Or your sisters may be trying to normalize how hard it is to be pregnant and how hard it is to be a new mother. Just because you've TTC for a long time doesn't mean that you aren't allowed to feel fat and/or exhausted during pregnancy or that you aren't allowed to feel exhausted/overwhelmed/depressed postpartum. There are aspects of being a new mom that are hard for everyone and it's all new, which is also a challenge.
Be happy that they aren't telling you "I thrived during those sleepless nights with Larlo... I lived for her needing me 24/7 when it was difficult to go for a walk or take a shower. I barely noticed when my breasts were painful and engorged, my clothes didn't fit, and a huge maxi pad felt like a permanent part of my outfit."
I have two (pregnant with #3) and was one of the first in my friend group to have kids. I totally try to normalize how difficult it is to my friends - not because I want them to be like "OMG, this sucks/this is so hard." Not at all. I want to normalize that it's OK to be sad/frustrated/depressed/overwhelmed/stressed during an incredibly difficult time for many. You are taking care of a helpless baby, recovering from pregnancy/childbirth, sleep deprived, and your hormones are all out of whack. No one is going to love every moment and the point is that it's ok not to love every moment!
But I don’t feel fat. I lost the weight 2 weeks pp when the fluids drained out. I’m not exhausted. The baby slept in five hour stretches and only woke one time and night since coming home from the hospital. He also has a great latch so no breastfeeding problems. I’m not overwhelmed or depressed.
I think moms complain too much. It’s really not that hard. It’s a lot of sitting around nursing while I watch tv or play on the Internet. It’s kind of boring.
Yes because it's always exactly like that. Your 3 year old will sleep all day and let you play on the internet and of course, you will never have any other babies. You got it all figured out super mom! You are going to be sooo embarrassed you said so many stupid things in a few years.
Anonymous
09/30/2021 15:16
Subject: Re:Sisters seem disappointed I'm not complaining about being a mom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Or your sisters may be trying to normalize how hard it is to be pregnant and how hard it is to be a new mother. Just because you've TTC for a long time doesn't mean that you aren't allowed to feel fat and/or exhausted during pregnancy or that you aren't allowed to feel exhausted/overwhelmed/depressed postpartum. There are aspects of being a new mom that are hard for everyone and it's all new, which is also a challenge.
Be happy that they aren't telling you "I thrived during those sleepless nights with Larlo... I lived for her needing me 24/7 when it was difficult to go for a walk or take a shower. I barely noticed when my breasts were painful and engorged, my clothes didn't fit, and a huge maxi pad felt like a permanent part of my outfit."
I have two (pregnant with #3) and was one of the first in my friend group to have kids. I totally try to normalize how difficult it is to my friends - not because I want them to be like "OMG, this sucks/this is so hard." Not at all. I want to normalize that it's OK to be sad/frustrated/depressed/overwhelmed/stressed during an incredibly difficult time for many. You are taking care of a helpless baby, recovering from pregnancy/childbirth, sleep deprived, and your hormones are all out of whack. No one is going to love every moment and the point is that it's ok not to love every moment!
But I don’t feel fat. I lost the weight 2 weeks pp when the fluids drained out. I’m not exhausted. The baby slept in five hour stretches and only woke one time and night since coming home from the hospital. He also has a great latch so no breastfeeding problems. I’m not overwhelmed or depressed.
I think moms complain too much. It’s really not that hard. It’s a lot of sitting around nursing while I watch tv or play on the Internet. It’s kind of boring.
Is this the same OP who said "they ask about me and the baby and I say she was up all night they'll say they remember that phase and it sucked"? Which is it? The baby has never woken more than once a night or it's awake all night and you're on Cloud 9 about it anyway?
This is either a troll or a person who needs a PPD screening, stat.
Anonymous
09/30/2021 15:11
Subject: Sisters seem disappointed I'm not complaining about being a mom
How many kids do your sisters have? You have only one and it’s been 7 weeks. Stop being weird and smug.
Anonymous
09/30/2021 15:07
Subject: Re:Sisters seem disappointed I'm not complaining about being a mom
Anonymous wrote:Or your sisters may be trying to normalize how hard it is to be pregnant and how hard it is to be a new mother. Just because you've TTC for a long time doesn't mean that you aren't allowed to feel fat and/or exhausted during pregnancy or that you aren't allowed to feel exhausted/overwhelmed/depressed postpartum. There are aspects of being a new mom that are hard for everyone and it's all new, which is also a challenge.
Be happy that they aren't telling you "I thrived during those sleepless nights with Larlo... I lived for her needing me 24/7 when it was difficult to go for a walk or take a shower. I barely noticed when my breasts were painful and engorged, my clothes didn't fit, and a huge maxi pad felt like a permanent part of my outfit."
I have two (pregnant with #3) and was one of the first in my friend group to have kids. I totally try to normalize how difficult it is to my friends - not because I want them to be like "OMG, this sucks/this is so hard." Not at all. I want to normalize that it's OK to be sad/frustrated/depressed/overwhelmed/stressed during an incredibly difficult time for many. You are taking care of a helpless baby, recovering from pregnancy/childbirth, sleep deprived, and your hormones are all out of whack. No one is going to love every moment and the point is that it's ok not to love every moment!
But I don’t feel fat. I lost the weight 2 weeks pp when the fluids drained out. I’m not exhausted. The baby slept in five hour stretches and only woke one time and night since coming home from the hospital. He also has a great latch so no breastfeeding problems. I’m not overwhelmed or depressed.
I think moms complain too much. It’s really not that hard. It’s a lot of sitting around nursing while I watch tv or play on the Internet. It’s kind of boring.
Anonymous
09/30/2021 14:56
Subject: Re:Sisters seem disappointed I'm not complaining about being a mom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is there a question here?
No. OP just wants everyone and her sisters to know what a perfect doting mom she is who is joyful every chance she gets to see her babe even all night long because she doesn't even need sleep, so perfect that she is.
Also, surely how she feels with a seven week old is representative of how she will be as a mother in the future. All hail op!
To be fair, I had no idea what I was doing when my first was 7 weeks and 13 year later, I still don’t!
A humble person would acknowledge they don't now what they don't know and not try to come across as superior, unlike OP.
Anonymous
09/30/2021 14:46
Subject: Re:Sisters seem disappointed I'm not complaining about being a mom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is there a question here?
No. OP just wants everyone and her sisters to know what a perfect doting mom she is who is joyful every chance she gets to see her babe even all night long because she doesn't even need sleep, so perfect that she is.
Also, surely how she feels with a seven week old is representative of how she will be as a mother in the future. All hail op!
To be fair, I had no idea what I was doing when my first was 7 weeks and 13 year later, I still don’t!
Anonymous
09/30/2021 14:41
Subject: Re:Sisters seem disappointed I'm not complaining about being a mom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Did they complain 24/7 when they had their first kids? Maybe they thought you'd be miserable as well instead of grateful as you are. Good for you OP.
Actually, I read the OP as a little too anxious and if I was her sisters I would be concerned about PPD. She tells her sister the baby was up all night and immediately backpedals that it was actually fine! No problem whatsoever! She loves her baby and is so grateful to the chance to be a mom. It’s like she’s walking on eggshells and terrified that admitting there are negative sides to parenting will tempt fate. I think her sisters are trying their best to create a safe space for her.
+1
Anonymous
09/30/2021 14:38
Subject: Re:Sisters seem disappointed I'm not complaining about being a mom
Anonymous wrote:Did they complain 24/7 when they had their first kids? Maybe they thought you'd be miserable as well instead of grateful as you are. Good for you OP.
Actually, I read the OP as a little too anxious and if I was her sisters I would be concerned about PPD. She tells her sister the baby was up all night and immediately backpedals that it was actually fine! No problem whatsoever! She loves her baby and is so grateful to the chance to be a mom. It’s like she’s walking on eggshells and terrified that admitting there are negative sides to parenting will tempt fate. I think her sisters are trying their best to create a safe space for her.
Anonymous
09/30/2021 14:30
Subject: Re:Sisters seem disappointed I'm not complaining about being a mom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is there a question here?
No. OP just wants everyone and her sisters to know what a perfect doting mom she is who is joyful every chance she gets to see her babe even all night long because she doesn't even need sleep, so perfect that she is.
Also, surely how she feels with a seven week old is representative of how she will be as a mother in the future. All hail op!
My singleton baby sleeps 18 hours a day, I've got this parenting thing nailed down! What's everyone complaining about?
Anonymous
09/30/2021 14:28
Subject: Re:Sisters seem disappointed I'm not complaining about being a mom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is there a question here?
No. OP just wants everyone and her sisters to know what a perfect doting mom she is who is joyful every chance she gets to see her babe even all night long because she doesn't even need sleep, so perfect that she is.
Also, surely how she feels with a seven week old is representative of how she will be as a mother in the future. All hail op!
Anonymous
09/30/2021 14:26
Subject: Re:Sisters seem disappointed I'm not complaining about being a mom
Anonymous wrote:Is there a question here?
No. OP just wants everyone and her sisters to know what a perfect doting mom she is who is joyful every chance she gets to see her babe even all night long because she doesn't even need sleep, so perfect that she is.