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[quote=Anonymous]I have two older sisters and we were caught in the competition trap with each other for many years.

I finally decided I had enough and didn't need to win.  I started just being happy for their successes and for all that they had and stopped wondering why I didn't.  It doesn't mean that I am never not jealous but it slowly allowed me to see that yes, they both had challenges as well.

I will say they were both suspicious of my changed behavior and thought it was some manipulation tactic.  One of my sisters, after a couple of years, finally let down her guard and realized I was being sincere and I was genuinely happy for her and her Family and her kids successes. And while not overnight, her attitude towards me began to change as well and she stopped trying to engage in competition and actually became far more generous but not with money but with time and energy to get to know me and my family.

Sadly, my other sister this didn't happen but who knows maybe in the future things will change.

In the end, I am glad that I made the change in myself and I was much happier. Even if neither of my sister's behavior ever changed, I was still in a better place.  [/quote]

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