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[quote=Anonymous]I talk with my 14 year old DD about this subject rather often. She is not active but has friends who are sexually active. Plus many girls their age are putting nudes on private social media at the behest of their boyfriends. I constantly tell her never to send nudes through any medium as revenge porn is a popular tactic employed by boys/ men who are angry about feeling rejected, and has caused great harm to many young women.

Regarding sexual activity at this age, I caution her that she is way too young to handle the complex emotions that come with sexual intimacy. Also that research has shown that starting sexual intercourse early places women at far greater risk of being lured into abusive relationships and/or sex trafficking and prostitution.

I also encourage her not to be in a rush to reach adulthood. Some teen hormones may fuel some intense passions but it is good to keep attraction in check and to channel that sexual energy into creative, athletic or academic interests because she is just way too young to handle the complexity of sexual intimacy.

We talk about the need for building trust and love in a relationship before becoming sexually intimate and that for now relationships should fun and light. Also that women and girls need to have their own careers and higher education.

We also discuss that sexual assaults against young women are tragically extremely common and that she needs to protect to herself by taking self defense classes and reporting any inappropriate conduct by adults/ older teens.

Not sure she goes along with all of it, but I try to communicate what I wish I had known at that age[/quote]

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