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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That was me in 2011. Guess who got a dog in the end? Well, me. I did not want it, made it clear I wanted nothing to do with the dog, and then 2 months after the pup was growing up I ended p with the dog. Not DH, not the kids. They played with him for 2 months. Then, they didn't walk him, didn't groom him, DH created terrible habits with the dog, and I ended up training and retraining and taking care of the dog. DH ends up going overseas for 5 years and kids in HS and I was working, doing all the kids' activities, and walking the dog at 8 pm.
Vet, baths, sick, walks, all on me.
And DH? Guess what he would say when he came home for R&R? How come the house is filthy with fur! Bcs of you effing dog and me working full time, studying too, taking care of kids, traveling to stupid kid tournaments and competitions, and being overworked to death.
So, year, get the dog. You will end up loving him and hating your DH and kids on occasion.[/quote]

Yes that is what I’m worried about too! DH already gets frustrated with me for how messy the house gets (I do try a lot but his tolerance for mess is very low and he loves cleaning so has a hard time understand why I’m not doing it more than I am), so it seems like that’s going to be even worse with a dog. And he is very grateful for everything I do as a SAHM and probably values a lot of what I do even more than I do myself, but he doesn’t know half the things I do! Like, he was surprised when he found out I had spent ten hours searching for a specialist for my kid, and had created a binder of ADHD research in preparation of the accommodations meeting with the school, and I was just thinking “this is just a teeny fraction of the kid if things I do for the kids and you didn’t even know about it?” I absolutely don’t expect a reward or anything but [b]he probably assumes I have way more free time than I have[/b]. [/quote]

This is a big problem. A dog will automatically result in A LOT more cleaning work. Even if the kids do all the obvious dog chores (and even that is a big IF) there will be hours of extra dusting, vacuuming and mopping to get to slightly messier than your pre-dog days. If he alreahas a low tolerance for messes this going to lead to resentment. He’s going to feel like he’s doing “ALL”the work for the dog and you’re doing LESS around the house when you’re actually doing more.

Though realistically, you’re going to be doing all the daily dog care AND cleaning a lot more and still have a messy house. Your DH complaining about dog hair when hours of your day is consumed by dog care is going to lead to a lot of resentment.

Don’t do it.

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