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[quote=Anonymous]DH goes out to business dinners two or three times per month. Home by about 8:30 pm, sometimes toting left over dessert for the kids.  (I told him maybe best not to do that, but lol.)  Most times I already know the people he’s meeting with.  I was reflecting on how people think that opportunities to run errands, etc, is an opportunity to cheat. I guess a person could try to do so in this case, but the gyrations you’d have to go through (getting people to cover for you; getting a dessert and take home bag from the restaurant) would be heroic to show he is thinking of family.  My view is you need to look at someone’s actions, not their words.  By their behavior, are they showing that they love and respect you and are thinking of you.  Going out to the bars without you several times a week (absent knowing other details) doesn’t sound that thoughtful.  Having a social life in addition to family life is reasonable provided you two are still connecting with each other.  How does your DH treat you at home? What would his response be if you wanted to go out with him sometimes? And very importantly - how sketchy or not is he with phone use?  Looking at his actions surrounding his outside social activities likely will provide the answers you want. But at the end of the day, you either trust your spouse or you don’t.  If you don’t, it probably is not an ideal situation for you.[/quote]

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