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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a rape victim myself (by a stranger, held at knifepoint - 28 yrs. ago), and I have no advice.  I feel for you and I feel for her.  It's so fresh for her, you know?  Can you talk to her, openly, and be very frank?  Be kind, but tell her your thoughts, but don't tell her that you can't be there for her, you might send her off the edge.  Being raped, or almost being raped, is just so fucking traumatizing - I still, to this day, can't believe it actually happened to me.  I never tell anyone either, because of the stupid responses, or weird looks, it's as if I'm some leper.

Help her find someone to talk to.  I understand her pain and your pain - it's something that should never never happen to anyone.  [/quote]

Your post really struck me.  I haven't been raped but I had a horrific childhood, a lot of trauma and moved far away as soon as I could.  I've worked really hard to overcome my childhood and am really happy with the loving family I've created.  I can speak freely about my upbringing to people here but on the few occasions I go home or when I'm in contact with someone who 'knew me when', I'm feel some shame and have a lingering fear that the past will come up.  I hear your story and see that you get stupid responses, weird looks, etc. and I'm filled with rage.  There is NOTHING wrong with you!  I know I should feel no shame, no reluctance, no fear and it's easier said than done but I really don't want you feeling that way.  We are strong, we are resilient, we are survivors! Why do these negative feelings still haunt us?[/quote]

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