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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nanny here and I would never advise anyone to hire a nanny with that commute time.  This is an emotionally demanding job and they will burn out quickly and start job hunting.  The fact that she hasn’t started yet and is already looking for you to be flexible and adapt to her needs is a bad sign.  She’s probably a fine nanny, but she needs a nanny family who has wiggle room to help her make it work.  You are looking for someone who can be flexible for you to accommodate how inflexible your jobs are.  It’s not a good fit.[/quote]

Thanks for your thought, this is OP. How would you want an employer to handle the situation in this case? I really feel awful since we think she is great as a nanny and if the circumstances were different there would be no issues.[/quote]
You shouldn't feel awful though, you didn't force her to accept the offer. If I had someone trying to come to my team at work who was asking to "work less" before they even started I'd consider it a HUGE  red flag. Nope.[/quote]
What? No. Plenty of people ask about flexibility during the hiring process. It’s ridiculous to say OP shouldn’t feel bad because no one forced nanny to accept the offer. No one forced OP to extend the offer, then rescind when the nanny has done nothing wrong! Do what you want; you need to feel comfortable, but make no mistake that this is really terrible behavior. People routinely commute over an hour for jobs in this area because COL is so high.[/quote]

But she didn’t ask DURING the hiring process, when both sides would have had the chance for a conversation about how much or little flexibility was available.  She accepted the job as it stood, including specifically assuring OP that she had no concerns about the long hours or long commute or need for all-day childcare.  She then came back later and revealed that she did NOT have the logistics in place to manage all those things and asked her new employer to change her schedule to accommodate her childcare issues.

This tells me that either her mindset is that a) her boss should be the one to adjust and be flexible and any time something comes up she will feel entitled to have her boss be the one to figure out a solution or b) she has already sought diligently for a solution and can’t find one, which means she just doesn’t have the resources and support system in place to be working these long hours.[/quote]

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