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[quote=Anonymous]Your interest seems a bit intense for a friend, op.  Are you interested in a romantic relationship with the husband.. or his wife?  Are you the husband?

They handle it however they’d like to handle it. Your choices are support the marriage, or don’t be friends with him/them until he ends the marriage. You don’t encourage the ending of the marriage, but nor do you have to be around people who’s conduct you don’t like.

Your friend is an adult. He has the right to live however he’d like.. as do you.

As for what he told you, who knows. Maybe it went down as he says.  Maybe he was too into work or hobbies to the point that the wife felt neglected. Yes, it does happen, and interestingly, I’ve not seen a viable solution to wake the other spouse up so they understand that while their work and hobbies are g-rated, they are not good for the marriage.

Maybe the wife experienced somethings you’d not notice or have never experienced, racial discrimination for example.  I showed this thread to my husband and told him “I doubt I could ever live in Georgia” and that surprised him because all he’s ever heard is how much I loved Atlanta.. and I did.. when I was there for the Olympics, doesn’t mean I’d want to live there though.

There is no excuse for cheating, op, but there is also no way to communicate inappropriate or uncomfortable g-rated behavior either.  It’s also very difficult to explain the difference between a mean b***ch v. some truly hateful behavior given that we’ve all been tought to “give people a chance” “maybe they don’t understand” “bloom where you’re planted” “try and educate”

If you like your friend, then try to like his wife. If you can’t, distance yourself from both of them. He knows where to find you should the marriage end and he becomes someone you want to hang out with.   [/quote]

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