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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here.  Wow! Some of you are super judgmental. Why am I dating him? WTF?.  I'm dating him for the reasons most people date someone,  He's a nice guy, I'm attracted to him. I enjoy spending time with him. I see him in my future etc.

Why we waited 3 months. # mont and exclusivity are my requirements for sex. It works for me and he didn't have a problem with it.  We have been physical with each other, just no sex yet, and what we have shared so far has been enjoyable.

I have already said that he does not want to do overnights because he wants to be around to put his kids to bed. I also assume wake up with them in the morning, and I guess to be there if they get up during the night. I can't fault him for wanting that. I also don't think he needs to tell his kids anything about us yet.
He's been widowed for 3 years, his children are 3,7 and 9.[/quote]

Hi OP - only you know what’s ok with you or not and also what the vibe feels like between you.  If you want a relationship with sex as a priority - you can have that maybe even with this guy if he wants that too.  Right now, per your own rules, you could be having sex at lunch the 2-3x a week that you see him … why do you think that’s not happening?[/quote]

We only just crossed over the 3-month mark. I didn't have it marked on my calendar as sex day, but I guess I did hope that once the time came it would happen. As for why it hasn't happened I can't say for sure. Maybe we are both waiting for the other to initiate. I can also say that grandma doesn't babysit every week, and we don't always have the whole hour for lunch.  Depending on workflow sometimes it's just a 15 to 30 minute break sometimes,  we try to do other things when we meet up, like the stuff you normally do on your break. I guess my thread is mostly about thinking ahead and what this will look like moving forward,  I suppose next time together I will have to initiate, though I generally prefer when the guy does.[/quote]

Are you sure you two are dating and exclusive? These sound like stolen moments.[/quote]

Yes, OP.  You seem very sincere and sweet.  How old are you?  Have you been in serious relationships before?  What about the BF?  How old, and how many other relationships did he have before his wife passed away?  Do you have mutual friends who know that you are dating?
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