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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Wow! Some of you are super judgmental. Why am I dating him? WTF?. I'm dating him for the reasons most people date someone, He's a nice guy, I'm attracted to him. I enjoy spending time with him. I see him in my future etc.

Why we waited 3 months. # mont and exclusivity are my requirements for sex. It works for me and he didn't have a problem with it. We have been physical with each other, just no sex yet, and what we have shared so far has been enjoyable.

I have already said that he does not want to do overnights because he wants to be around to put his kids to bed. I also assume wake up with them in the morning, and I guess to be there if they get up during the night. I can't fault him for wanting that. I also don't think he needs to tell his kids anything about us yet.
He's been widowed for 3 years, his children are 3,7 and 9.

Hi OP - only you know what’s ok with you or not and also what the vibe feels like between you. If you want a relationship with sex as a priority - you can have that maybe even with this guy if he wants that too. Right now, per your own rules, you could be having sex at lunch the 2-3x a week that you see him … why do you think that’s not happening?

We only just crossed over the 3-month mark. I didn't have it marked on my calendar as sex day, but I guess I did hope that once the time came it would happen. As for why it hasn't happened I can't say for sure. Maybe we are both waiting for the other to initiate. I can also say that grandma doesn't babysit every week, and we don't always have the whole hour for lunch. Depending on workflow sometimes it's just a 15 to 30 minute break sometimes, we try to do other things when we meet up, like the stuff you normally do on your break. I guess my thread is mostly about thinking ahead and what this will look like moving forward, I suppose next time together I will have to initiate, though I generally prefer when the guy does.

Are you sure you two are dating and exclusive? These sound like stolen moments.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Wow! Some of you are super judgmental. Why am I dating him? WTF?. I'm dating him for the reasons most people date someone, He's a nice guy, I'm attracted to him. I enjoy spending time with him. I see him in my future etc.

Why we waited 3 months. # mont and exclusivity are my requirements for sex. It works for me and he didn't have a problem with it. We have been physical with each other, just no sex yet, and what we have shared so far has been enjoyable.

I have already said that he does not want to do overnights because he wants to be around to put his kids to bed. I also assume wake up with them in the morning, and I guess to be there if they get up during the night. I can't fault him for wanting that. I also don't think he needs to tell his kids anything about us yet.
He's been widowed for 3 years, his children are 3,7 and 9.

Hi OP - only you know what’s ok with you or not and also what the vibe feels like between you. If you want a relationship with sex as a priority - you can have that maybe even with this guy if he wants that too. Right now, per your own rules, you could be having sex at lunch the 2-3x a week that you see him … why do you think that’s not happening?

We only just crossed over the 3-month mark. I didn't have it marked on my calendar as sex day, but I guess I did hope that once the time came it would happen. As for why it hasn't happened I can't say for sure. Maybe we are both waiting for the other to initiate. I can also say that grandma doesn't babysit every week, and we don't always have the whole hour for lunch. Depending on workflow sometimes it's just a 15 to 30 minute break sometimes, we try to do other things when we meet up, like the stuff you normally do on your break. I guess my thread is mostly about thinking ahead and what this will look like moving forward, I suppose next time together I will have to initiate, though I generally prefer when the guy does.

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Anonymous wrote:I dated ( and later married) a widowed father with young kids.
As you said sex is quick for the most part, that's just life with kids, much easier now that we are living together. It was really hard when dating.
I did push for and get an overnight though the first time we were together. I was a virgin and I stressed to him that I needed him to be there after to cuddle, and I wanted to wake up next to him the next morning. I didn't want it to be a hurried affair. He made that happen.
So I think you have to communicate your wants and needs, but also be really flexible about what happens when you are together.

You were a virgin dating a single dad with three young kids? Weird.

Not that PP but what's weird about it? They clearly liked each other and ended up married. You people have so many arbitrary and silly "rules."

DP. Oh come on - that's very weird. She was dating a man who had been a father for at least 5 years (unless they were triplets) but she was a virgin.

Was it arranged? Did the community expect her to keep her chastity intact?

Or maybe she liked this man and he liked her and she hadn't had sex yet but wasn't necessarily waiting for marriage. Again, the weirdos are you creeps.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Wow! Some of you are super judgmental. Why am I dating him? WTF?. I'm dating him for the reasons most people date someone, He's a nice guy, I'm attracted to him. I enjoy spending time with him. I see him in my future etc.

Why we waited 3 months. # mont and exclusivity are my requirements for sex. It works for me and he didn't have a problem with it. We have been physical with each other, just no sex yet, and what we have shared so far has been enjoyable.

I have already said that he does not want to do overnights because he wants to be around to put his kids to bed. I also assume wake up with them in the morning, and I guess to be there if they get up during the night. I can't fault him for wanting that. I also don't think he needs to tell his kids anything about us yet.
He's been widowed for 3 years, his children are 3,7 and 9.

Hi OP - only you know what’s ok with you or not and also what the vibe feels like between you. If you want a relationship with sex as a priority - you can have that maybe even with this guy if he wants that too. Right now, per your own rules, you could be having sex at lunch the 2-3x a week that you see him … why do you think that’s not happening?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Wow! Some of you are super judgmental. Why am I dating him? WTF?. I'm dating him for the reasons most people date someone, He's a nice guy, I'm attracted to him. I enjoy spending time with him. I see him in my future etc.

Why we waited 3 months. # mont and exclusivity are my requirements for sex. It works for me and he didn't have a problem with it. We have been physical with each other, just no sex yet, and what we have shared so far has been enjoyable.

I have already said that he does not want to do overnights because he wants to be around to put his kids to bed. I also assume wake up with them in the morning, and I guess to be there if they get up during the night. I can't fault him for wanting that. I also don't think he needs to tell his kids anything about us yet.
He's been widowed for 3 years, his children are 3,7 and 9.

Hi OP - only you know what’s ok with you or not and also what the vibe feels like between you. If you want a relationship with sex as a priority - you can have that maybe even with this guy if he wants that too. Right now, per your own rules, you could be having sex at lunch the 2-3x a week that you see him … why do you think that’s not happening?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dated ( and later married) a widowed father with young kids.
As you said sex is quick for the most part, that's just life with kids, much easier now that we are living together. It was really hard when dating.
I did push for and get an overnight though the first time we were together. I was a virgin and I stressed to him that I needed him to be there after to cuddle, and I wanted to wake up next to him the next morning. I didn't want it to be a hurried affair. He made that happen.
So I think you have to communicate your wants and needs, but also be really flexible about what happens when you are together.

You were a virgin dating a single dad with three young kids? Weird.

Not that PP but what's weird about it? They clearly liked each other and ended up married. You people have so many arbitrary and silly "rules."

DP. Oh come on - that's very weird. She was dating a man who had been a father for at least 5 years (unless they were triplets) but she was a virgin.

Was it arranged? Did the community expect her to keep her chastity intact?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dated ( and later married) a widowed father with young kids.
As you said sex is quick for the most part, that's just life with kids, much easier now that we are living together. It was really hard when dating.
I did push for and get an overnight though the first time we were together. I was a virgin and I stressed to him that I needed him to be there after to cuddle, and I wanted to wake up next to him the next morning. I didn't want it to be a hurried affair. He made that happen.
So I think you have to communicate your wants and needs, but also be really flexible about what happens when you are together.

You were a virgin dating a single dad with three young kids? Weird.

Not that PP but what's weird about it? They clearly liked each other and ended up married. You people have so many arbitrary and silly "rules."

DP. Oh come on - that's very weird. She was dating a man who had been a father for at least 5 years (unless they were triplets) but she was a virgin.

Was it arranged? Did the community expect her to keep her chastity intact?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. We haven't had sex yet because we both agreed to wait until 3 months and being exclusive. We are a little over 3 months now.

I know he will not hire a babysitter or sleepover at my place because he's only comfortable with family babysitting and he likes to be around for his children's bedtime.

As of now, we have seen each other about twice a week. I'm thinking like in the future it's basically having to choose between having sex quick or going out somewhere? No long lingering evening and overnights, Correct?

Yup, it’ll be quick. Definitely no overnights.

Sounds like he’s a really good dad. That’s rare to find, most prioritize their d!cks over their kids.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dated ( and later married) a widowed father with young kids.
As you said sex is quick for the most part, that's just life with kids, much easier now that we are living together. It was really hard when dating.
I did push for and get an overnight though the first time we were together. I was a virgin and I stressed to him that I needed him to be there after to cuddle, and I wanted to wake up next to him the next morning. I didn't want it to be a hurried affair. He made that happen.
So I think you have to communicate your wants and needs, but also be really flexible about what happens when you are together.

You were a virgin dating a single dad with three young kids? Weird.

Not that PP but what's weird about it? They clearly liked each other and ended up married. You people have so many arbitrary and silly "rules."

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Wow! Some of you are super judgmental. Why am I dating him? WTF?. I'm dating him for the reasons most people date someone, He's a nice guy, I'm attracted to him. I enjoy spending time with him. I see him in my future etc.

Why we waited 3 months. # mont and exclusivity are my requirements for sex. It works for me and he didn't have a problem with it. We have been physical with each other, just no sex yet, and what we have shared so far has been enjoyable.

I have already said that he does not want to do overnights because he wants to be around to put his kids to bed. I also assume wake up with them in the morning, and I guess to be there if they get up during the night. I can't fault him for wanting that. I also don't think he needs to tell his kids anything about us yet.
He's been widowed for 3 years, his children are 3,7 and 9.