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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here.  Wow! Some of you are super judgmental. Why am I dating him? WTF?.  I'm dating him for the reasons most people date someone,  He's a nice guy, I'm attracted to him. I enjoy spending time with him. I see him in my future etc.

Why we waited 3 months. # mont and exclusivity are my requirements for sex. It works for me and he didn't have a problem with it.  We have been physical with each other, just no sex yet, and what we have shared so far has been enjoyable.

I have already said that he does not want to do overnights because he wants to be around to put his kids to bed. I also assume wake up with them in the morning, and I guess to be there if they get up during the night. I can't fault him for wanting that. I also don't think he needs to tell his kids anything about us yet.
He's been widowed for 3 years, his children are 3,7 and 9.[/quote]

Hi OP - only you know what’s ok with you or not and also what the vibe feels like between you.  If you want a relationship with sex as a priority - you can have that maybe even with this guy if he wants that too.  Right now, per your own rules, you could be having sex at lunch the 2-3x a week that you see him … why do you think that’s not happening?[/quote]

OP - I asked the question about why you are dating him and it wasn't judgmental - but genuinely curious.  Your stated reasons aren't universal and could also include that you want to get married and/or have kids.  Or could be just that you want to have fun in the here and now.  I am dating now too - but post-divorce - and I have zero interest in getting re-married or even committing to anyone.  I want to date to have someone fun to have dinner with and get busy with afterwards - and I am fine with that on a first date if there is great vibe!

The deeper question for you to ask yourself if what do you really want and whether you have enough info to determine if you are in the right relationship for that right now?   If you are - great!  But don't expect his time to open up or his libido to increase with 3 young kids.  
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