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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I mean this with kindness. Do not have a third. Don’t. Trust me. It’s really really hard with two parents who work. Your health and your marriage especially will take a major hit. You won’t listen but at least I told you so. [/quote]

I'm listening. Why is 3 so much harder? I love my job and I don't plan to give it up, but I do feel bad having a sitter on the weekends because we have a nanny from 8:30-5:30 from M-F. I work in a corporate role, but am remote. That might make 3 easier, right? [/quote]

DP, and three is so much harder because it's another human being.  Mine are 9, 7, and 5 and while it's in many ways easier than when they were, say, 4.5, 2.5, and a newborn, there are still challenges (tween drama! scheduling! school!), even while we're largely much better-rested.  But three vs. two means another human who needs attention, love, resources, etc., and when you have two FT working parents (as DH and I do), it's hard.  We also don't have helpful family, but even if you do, keep in mind that family can get sick or have circumstances change or whatever.

So, yeah.  At the very least, I don't think three is doable with two parents in "big" careers.  Being a parent means being a parent for life, IMO, and you have to pace yourself so you don't burn out by the time they're 12 or whatever.  Kids need a lot as they get older, too, even if that shifts from physical demands to emotional.[/quote]

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