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For me it actually was harder later, when the child was older. My DH gave me a lot of space that first year, plus he was really helpful with the baby. It was harder when she was a toddler because it didn't play to his parenting strengths so he helped less, and I found a toddler far more draining than a baby because you have to handle their social-emotional development and I personally find it more draining to talk a child through meltdowns or help them figure out how to handle disappointment or frustration, than meeting the physical and emotional needs of a baby. But that's me and might be specific to my kid or my personality. Everyone is different.

I have found the best resolution is childcare. I was a SAHM until DD was 2 and then went back PT, then FT when she turned 4. The more time she spent in someone else's care during the day, while I worked (but also got to be alone, talk to other adults, ate meals without having to prepare someone else's meals, and just generally felt more like a person and less like a butler/therapist all the time), the more energy and interest I had in my DH and the more I had to give him.

I have a SAHM friend who was struggling with this and she got some part time childcare a few days a week and it made a huge difference. That's not something we could afford when I was SAHMing, but if you can afford it (or have family who could help you out), I would highly recommend that. [/quote]

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