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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hear a lot of men (on DCUM and in real life) who demand sex from their wives when they’re unsatisfied with their sex life. They make comments like:

- married people have sex 
- fulfilling your husband’s sexual needs is in your wedding vows
- you should be able to handle life responsibilities without giving up sex
- if you don’t have sex XX times per week, the marriage is open
- if you don’t have sex, we’re getting divorced

I’m just curious: men, has this ever actually worked for you?

My xH said all those things to me, and it made me want sex even less. When I tried to address the underlying issues, he just threatened cheating. When I said I was fine with that, he just nagged me nonstop. I’d suck it up and put out for a few weeks, but it was only me just laying there, completely dissociated and waiting for it to be over. Then I stopped giving in and a few months later, we divorced.

So in our case, I’d say the demands didn’t work. Does it ever actually work for anyone? Did you wife suddenly become hot for you?[/quote]

Do women ever demand sex?[/quote]

Girlfriends and APs, all the time, wives, rarely.[/quote]

I'm the wife. I've tried. More talking than demanding. It doesn't work. Just tried again yesterday.

And no I'm not physically repulsive to my husband or anything like that. Just, he's lost the interest. I've tried to make peace with it because I love my husband. My therapist thinks that this is not sustainable but we'll see.

What are you supposed to do? If at the essence there is a libidinal mismatch, you don't have all the options in the world.[/quote]

No judgment, I have been there. When there is a libido gap, the only three options are cheat, divorce or be miserable. If you are smart, you can sustain it for at least a while and who knows, maybe your libido will crash to where his is and you can live happily ever after.

Most men who can cheat, why not women too?[/quote]

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