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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. If a person refuses to see a doctor, and continuously lies, I don’t see how I’m supposed to “force” him. How? I’ve cried, begged, tantrums, threatened divorce. It goes nowhere. He pretends to agree to do the thing at the time, then doesn’t (or puts on a charade of pretending to go to the doctor). Or he tells me I’m crazy and dramatizing the situation and that I need to see a doctor.

Even if I get him to the doc, he’s not going to follow through on the recommendations. How do I force him to take medicine? Go to the lab for bloodwork? Go to his follow up appointments? Exercise? Stop eating garbage food?

You can’t “make” anyone do anything they are unwilling to do.[/quote]

That's all true, and I feel for you. At the same time, you're engaged in catastrophizing here -- that there is no point in pursuing any medical care, because he'll never comply with it. I think it's worth at least one time when you go with him to the appointment, describe the situation to the doctor (I think you should start with primary care, although a psychiatrist is ultimately going to be necessary), and sit with him to make sure he's seen and evaluated.  Will that change things? I don't know, but worth a try. You are likely going to divorce anyway, so trying to get him into treatment can only help. It might help the marriage, or it might help him be a more competent co-parent down the road. I'm sorry you're going through this.
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Op here. So what do I do when he refuses to get in the car and drive with me to the appointment? [/quote]

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