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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I suppose he had his thyroid checked, iron levels and all the things that doctors check when the patient complains of lethargy? He must do a full medical workup, because if the cause is physical and untreated, that’s dangerous. Untreated hypothyroidism for example, leads to weight gain, fatigue, depression, lethargy, heart problems then organ failure and death.

I hear you about the separation conundrum. I have the same issue, with a spouse who has different problems but the end result is the same: I do not want to leave my kids with him half the time.

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Op here. Nothing has been checked. He will not go to the doctor. [/quote]

He MUST go! Stage an intervention or something, hold his hand, bribe him, get his father/brother/boss, whoever to cajole him…

This is incredibly serious. My best friend became hypothyroid and was so depressed she couldn’t make the decision to seek medical care. Her husband had to make the appointment, drive her there, sit with her in the office… she was like a little child for awhile until meds kicked  in. 
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Op here. I know he needs to see a doctor. I’ve done all you describe short of driving him there because he insisted he did not want me to. I’ll try driving him but at a certain point it’s simply not feasible for me to be his full time caretaker. One doctors visit isn’t going to fix this. He will have to do blood work, follow up, etc.

My plate is already very full parenting our children and providing for our family. Also, DH lies. For months I believed he had been to see a doctor because I made him an appointment and he pretended to go and even gave me a fake “report” afterwards.

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Here's the thing.  If you don't go further, then this will never resolve.  If this were me, I would insist that my husband go to the psychiatrist immediately.  I would yell and get angry and make a huge fuss and make it so he couldn't say no, but that's because I am willing to fight for it.  You may be in a place where you don't want to fight for it (which is ok), and if that is the case, you should divorce.  He is setting a horrible example for the kids, as are you, by maintaining the status quo.[/quote]

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