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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your instinct that something is off here is never to be ignored. Read “The Gift of Fear”. Gavin DeBecker says it beautifully: “your gut doesn’t know *why* you have this feeling, only that you have it to protect you (or your children).” You don’t need to examine this too closely. Your brain saw something it didn’t like out of protection for your son. Enough said.[/quote]
This is bullshit. White women who cross the street when they see my well- dressed, professional AA DH also have a gut instinct that they are in danger, but that doesn’t mean there’s anything to be afraid of. OP hasn’t said anything nefarious. She can put a stop to it, of course, but that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong going on.[/quote]

+1. Plenty of people have subconscious fears based on their own past issues (or plain old racism as in PP’s example). Tickling in and of itself is not an issue to freak out about, especially if the DS was having fun, and it’s out in plain view of a bunch of people. Teen wasn’t sneaking around, getting kid to go off somewhere. DS wasn’t feeling weird or uncomfortable. Teenagers will repeat what works. My one daughter loves to be tickled and her cousins do it because she laughs and they are good older cousins who take the time to play with her. My other DD hates it. When they (in the past) tickled her and she told them to stop, they did. No where does the OP say her son was uncomfortable or doing anything but laughing. She is projecting sexually inappropriate thoughts *herself* onto this teenagers actions. If I was his parent, I’d be offended.[/quote]

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