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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I will be a dissenting voice. We all have a need to feel attractive, so I suggest you use your work friend to fill this purpose. Nothing says that once you married, you cannot have even an innocent flirtatious exchange that means nothing more than "I find you attractive" - "Thank you." Men will still pay you compliments, even if you have a wedding ring on your finger. You still have to find a way to accept them gracefully, unless you want to be a total spoilsport.  There are ways to enjoy compliments and attention without crossing the line.  It can be fun if you learn how to do it and don't go into a pre-paralysis every time a man looks at you approvingly.

My husband works at an office full of young girls.  I'm sure they look up to him, and I'm sure he enjoys it.  Why not let him? Everyone likes to be liked.  I have full confidence that he will not take it any further, and if all they do is work together, swap an occasional compliment and lunch, it doesn't quicken my pulse.  
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My take is that Op is already following your suggestion. She's at stage 2, which involves posting on DCUM about her "dilemma" to get further validation from other posters.

Interesting recommendation about using people, BTW. I'm impressed with how you suggest OP use this co-worker, then explain that it's about not being a spoilsport or going into "pre-paralysis." [/quote]

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