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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It seems all of you are young moms in your 30s?  I am a SAHM and I do a lot for my family but not only my family appreciates it a lot, I have absolutely no guilt about hiring a lot of help.

Why are you all trying to save money if your DH is not helping or being appreciative?  [/quote]

I am a PP and I am 38 with young kids. I'm not opposed to more help, but I feel like I don't have the bandwidth to screen, hire, or oversee more help and my husband (who advocates for it) won't do those things either. He's not, like, above doing it. He'll just say he wants to do it and then never actually follow through because it's at best a 4th priority after spending time on work, fun, and kids.[/quote]

This. My DH hates cleaning, and us always talking about hiring someone to come in so he doesn’t have to feel guilty about not doing it. But that’s all he does— talk. I actually like cleaning and find it satisfying, but need him to take on parenting duties so I can do it, which he resents. I’ve told him he’s welcome to hire a cleaner or a babysitter to solve this issue for himself, but until he does, he’s on childcare duty several hours a week while I clean.

He’ll never do it. Maybe one day instead of complaining, he’ll realize that he’s getting a great deal— quality solo time with his kids, a clean house, a happy spouse who enjoys spending a couple hours scrubbing and vacuuming while listening to music, all without the trouble or expense of hiring a stranger to clean our house or watch our kids. Maybe.[/quote]

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