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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. She is beautiful and has a lovely figure (she is a dancer and swimmer). I feel like the shorts and crop tops look trashy honestly. I would never say this to her. I say things like "too revealing" or "too mature." I bought a couple of "tasteful" crop tops at the beginning of the season at her begging and hoping that that would shut her up. It didn't and she has since bought several more at Target with her own money. After purchasing yet another couple today at Target with friends, I told her "I think that's enough crop tops." She was horribly offended and stormed upstairs. [/quote]

Its her money correct? Then you dont really have a say. You are making a fight about her independence and thats going to go sideways. She is buying crop tops not mushrooms.

She knows you think they look trashy because you are saying too revealing and too mature. You need to start to have REAL and HONEST conversations with your daughter about the balances that females have to make. If she is a dancer or swimmer she has already been in skintight revealing outfits, so there is hypocrisy at play here. Its not her body its the clothes but you are also saying the clothes are how she is being judged. These are really NUANCED conversations that are important to have. I mean you can talk about how the world wants women to cover up and its ingrained and how some people think that the way someone dresses reflects how they should be treated. There is some truth to that. Just as there are trashier outfits there are power outfits. No one deserves to be treated poorly because of the way they dress but it happens- she needs to be aware of things she CAN control and the things she cant control are other peoples reactions to her. She may like that she is looked at and desired. You see her as 13- her brain is not fully developed but the body develops faster than our brains do. Her body signals reproduction if she has breasts and hips, which is sexual. 
Look at the school in FL that took the yearbook photos and covered up girls who had ANY amount of cleavage showing. [url]https://www.cnn.com/2021/05/25/us/florida-yearbook-photos-altered-trnd/index.html[/url][/quote]

You make a lot of good points but you are delusional if you don’t think a parent has a say over a 13 year old.[/quote]

:shock: DP here. I have raised two girls. They know how to dress appropriately for different occasion. If they are going out partying their clothes are certainly more body-con. But they are not wearing that when going for a walk around the neighborhood. Yes. You absolutely have a say over what a 13 yr old is wearing. You also have a say over what a 16 yr old is wearing. [/quote]

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