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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That is totally normal. They are learning how to control their environment. They aren't old enough right now to know what they want and don't want. It's our job as parents to still take the lead.  I would hold off on giving them choices right now, if that is how they are responding. The back and forth as you know just leads to more stress. [/quote]

Actually, 2 choices works beautifully.  If it’s time to go to the bathroom for a bath: “Are you going to hop like a bunny to the bath or jump like a frog?”  For kids who repeatedly want to skip a step so they don’t have to do something: “Are you going to put your shoes on or carry them (on your head, if silliness gets a better response)?”  For child who just wants to assert independence: “Do you want the pink spoon or the green spoon?”

I give choices for about 95% of the day.  They don’t get to choose whether they get in the car seat, but they can choose how to get to the car and whether they climb in like a monkey or whether I put them in (not as fun!).  Even in the parking lot, they can choose to hold my hand or sit in the cart on the way out, ride piggy back on the way in.  When I say there’s no choice, this is the way it is, I get less pushback.[/quote]

NP- not all kids do well with choices. One of my kids gets overwhelmed with the decision making power and breaks down. Not every kid responds to this method. [/quote]

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