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[quote=Anonymous]Nanny here.

There are a ton of nannies who have to do this, because we never know when our employers will spring something on us last minute.  There are also a few Sahp or PT wohp who do this, but it's usually based on kid's mood (some children have behavior on certain days that they don't want to inflict on anyone else, so I applaud them for only firming up plans after they know what kind of day it's going to be).

I have NEVER run into someone like OP's "friend" who will decide day-of whether to get coffee or clean the house... while she is completely child-free and they are at school!  I don't even know where to start with that.

Here's my two cents OP:

When I know that someone prefers to be spontaneous (again, usually due to working around others, but it can also apply in your situation), I make plans that can work whether they join us or not, then I send a quick text to invite them morning of.  It literally doesn't matter to me whether they come to xyz park with us that day or whether they get around to meet us at the Botanical Garden before we eat lunch.  I don't tell my charges that I've invited anyone who doesn't plan at least 24 hours ahead, because that way they aren't disappointed.

So!  Make your plans to go berry picking, to Clemyjontri/Our Special Harbor, the zoo, wherever.  Plan around what you and kids want to do, then decide the night before or the day of whether to invite them or not.  They may come, they may not, but you don't have to (and shouldn't) let this mom (or anyone else) dictate your schedule.[/quote]

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