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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, I'm not friends with people like this. It's truly not a judgment. I think a lot of people prefer not to plan, and just go with what their mood dictates, or what comes together on a particular day, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. But I am a planner. I never go to bed at night not knowing what I'm doing the next day (absent emergencies, obviously). And generally, by Sunday night, I know what I'm doing all week, and the next weekend. It's just my strong preference to know what's coming. So I just can't mesh well with people like this. It's too frustrating for everyone.

I was also like this way before kids, FWIW. [/quote]

NP here. I’m exactly like this as well. I like to plan one “social event” (i.e., outing or at-home get-together with a relative’s or friend’s family) every weekend. We have a pretty big circle so it’s not hard, but I like to plan 1-2 weeks in advance. Some people are so spur-of-the-moment that it’s impossible to meet them because they only initiate a couple days in advance (by which time I already have plans) and don’t commit ahead of time. I like them and I don’t take it personally though.[/quote]

Same. And with the friends who are more spontaneous, let's put it - I usually just try to make sure that I haven't made tentative plans for some time that I'd rather have something more certain in my calendar. I still like those people - and I try not to take it personally that they make plans differently than I do - but I also try not to have them control any part of my schedule.

Actually being friends with a couple of people like this has made me realize that I am way more of a planner now than I was when I was younger - and how frustrating I must have been when I was younger...[/quote]

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