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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I don't actually think that many people are moving back. I'm not. My friends are not.

I was born on the Peninsula, where my parents and extended family still live.  All but one of my childhood friends have moved away; the remaining one lived with her spouse and 2 kids in her mom's basement until a couple years ago (we are both 40). None of my cousins still live there. My parents' friends are starting to move away to live near their adult kids and their grandkids in places like OR, CO, PA, and NY. I've given up trying to persuade my parents to move east but they are starting to be in the minority among their friends.

A few years ago DH and I looked hard at moving back to CA.  I really, really wanted to make it work.  We looked at living with my parents, living in a condo, living hours away, etc.  We both would have had to change careers, we would have had to put kids in private school, we likely would not have had a yard ... it just didn't make sense and the quality of life would have been so drastically worse than what we have now.  My parents have what, 10 to 15 years left in life, if we're lucky?  And then when they pass, we will be stuck in an expensive uncomfortable housing situation (assuming fire didn't take everything) and subpar career situation, with no savings.

Also, if you have not been back to visit much, consider that the Bay Area you remember doesn't really exist anymore.  The people, culture, traffic, demographics, etc. are very different.  The BA of my childhood definitely is gone.  Places change.[/quote]

Also from the Bay Area, and this has been my experience as well.  My mom and siblings have moved away.  Most of my friends have, too.  Even though I still have family there--my parents both grew up there, so I have lots of extended family there--I don't really have any desire to move back there.  It's a really different vibe now that the tech stuff has taken over.  [/quote]

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