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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mine kind of sucks with chores but he does his own laundry, does half the parenting, handles car stuff, yard stuff, etc. So I really don’t want to be a hall monitor with crumbs on the counter or divorce him for these traits when he’s a good person and supports me in everything I do, especially with my career.[/quote]
A lot of strife comes from different expectations. One spouse expects a clean and tidy house with two young kids running around. The other prioritizes being relaxed and spending time with the kids over cleaning the kitchen. You have to meet halfway. You can't be pissed if things aren't held up to a high standard when you have kids at home. If it matters that much to you that laundry be put away within a few hours of it being done, then do it yourself. Otherwise, maybe give your spouse a day to do it because they need a few minutes to themselves or would rather read a book with your kid.

I say this as someone who wants a tidy house, but if DH is spending time with the kids or unwinding in bed when I know he's had a hard week, I'm not going to frame it in my mind as him not "helping" because there are dirty dishes in the sink. If it matters to me, I'll do them. It often doesn't and I let them sit and he'll do them without griping in the morning.

I can NOT imagine losing out on half my kids' lives because I'm mad about chores. I just can't.[/quote]

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